or scars, scabs and 3-legged races.

Talked to some friends today about messy relationships and it got me thinking, what is the secret to making a relationship work. The only person who can tell me would be the one who truly experienced "Till death do us part".

Loving someone is both pain and pleasure at the same time, my heart leaps in joy when he smiles at me, yet wrenches in pain when he ignores me.

I recall this theory (from God knows where) that if I have 2 guys who fancy me, and I like one more than the other, I should go for the one I like less... so that he can shower me with all the attention, without me getting so hurt. Will this work? Only if I can completely get over the one I like better.

when I was in primary school, my mum used to scold me for peeling off scabs of mosquito bites on my legs. I used to scratch the bites so much, it bleeds and eventually forms a scab - probably the body reaction to protect against further injury. The scab is hard, and not sensitive at all. But when the wound heals completely the scab falls off on its own. If I peel the scab off before the wound heals, it starts to bleed again. sometimes the scab just restricts my movement, especially if it is an abrasion on my knee. I am constantly reminded of that wound as I move around, but i know I am healing, and one day I will dance around again.

So is it better to run a three-legged race, with someone who has wisdom from many falls and takes each step carefully, or with one who has never fallen down at all then? I would run with the one who can cushion my fall better...